I don't really see why all of it matters. I've always seen a huge difference between what constitutes a Weeaboo and a more healthy form of anime appreciation or appreciation of other aspects of Japanese-ness. As long as we know that we aren't unhealthily obsessed then there is no problem with other people saying things that are derogatory. People need terms like that in order to create out-groups and make themselves feel better. Just let them do it and move on with your life. If you find that it really irks you when you get called Weeaboo, look objectively at yourself and you may indeed find that you could do with a bit of making those habits less overt so that people won't single you out as much.

Just sayin'

p.s. I'm not writing specifically to you, Nerd, I just decided to write in the second person.

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